The most recent relationship that comes to mind when thinking about knapp's model is an old college friend who I have drifted apart from since graduating community college. We originally met at a scholarship dinner, where we both had been rewarded the same scholarship for women in horticulture. This initiated our relationship, and when we met again in our agriculture classes we began experimenting our relationship by engaging in small talk in class and learning things we had in common. From seeing each other everyday in class and getting to know each other this intensified to a friendship. This person would even give me rides home from school. Those car rides further integrated and bonded our relationship learning we had similar music tastes and ragging on our days together. Linking up everyday to talk, sharing personal information with each other, studying together, talking about what we had learned in class, and sharing our passion for plants really bonded us. My professor one day asked me, "where my buddy was" when weren't together. It was a really fun relationship that I still value to this day. I am glad I got to go through community college with such a good friend. Eventually, we started to differentiate and circumscribe having different ideas of what we wanted upon graduating college, and also not graduating at the same time caused us to psychologically distance. We were on different time lines going down similar yet different paths. Our relationship eventually got to the point of stagnating and avoidance. Which I truly believe is because as our relationship distanced, what we wanted, and who we were becoming just completely differentiated. These differences and different life experiences during college lead us to put a wedge in our relationship. I am sure if we saw each other we still talk to each other we’d probably even have a lot to say, but its terminated in the sense that we are not close like we were when pursing our degrees. In fact, we were never that close after college. Sometimes its just the way she goes, that being said I hope shes doing well. The video I shared in this assignment explains five signs you have out grown a friendship, and most of these signs are what I experienced in this relationship. Lastly, I guess it is important to remember that there is nothing wrong with no longer engaging in relationships with people we no longer feel connected to. The people we are met to have in our lives come for a reason and the ones that are met to stick usually don’t go anywhere.
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